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My Labour Experience..The joys of Childbirth

Newborn-baby-boy-mummy-blog-chikdbirth-experinceSo i’ve had so many people ask me about my labour experience and i’ve told the story so many times now that I felt it would be easier to just do a post on it plus it give you guys a chance to read about it too. So let’s just jump into it shall we.

Now everyone wants that calm idyllic birth, and I was no different. I had a very difficult pregnancy and was hoping that the saying that goes bad pregnancy good birth would relate to didn’t. Although Archie is here and so am I. So really I can’t complain. After having everyone tell me that I would be  early, even the midwives, I went into hospital on July 30th at 10:00 am to be induced. I was 5 days overdue, and my induction was scheduled early due to me having gestational diabetes.

Now I feel I should mention that the couple of days leading up to my induction weren’t great. I went in on the Tuesday for lack of fetal movement and after being monitored for an hour thankfully all was fine, but I thought while  we were there I’d ask for a sweep. For those who don’t know what a sweep is, it’s a technique used to try and bring on labour. During an internal exam, a finger is used to try and separate the membranes of the amniotic sac surrounding the baby from your cervix. The separation is meant to release hormones which may kick start your labour.  Well lets just say it wasn’t an overly enjoyable experience for me.  The midwife who did my sweep was a senior midwife, and afterwards during my labour, I found out she’s notorious for giving good sweeps. ( good sweeps tend to be quite painful). I wasn’t able to endure the whole sweep, and left in tears. I was in pain for the next 2 days, and cried for about 7 hours afterwards..he midwife said she could have done a good sweep but she managed to pull my cervix forward…urgh it gives me shivers just typing it..But the sweep did it’s job as when I had my internal examination before my induction process was to start, the midwife said she was able to break my waters which would save me 12 hours.

So what should of happened was I would have had a pessary, waited 6 hours and had another one if labour hadn’t started. If that failed too I then would have had the hormone drip. But because the midwife was able to break my waters I saved myself the 12 hours of not needing the pessary. Now I should mention that my midwife was great. I mentioned my awful sweep which in turn made me terrified of having anymore internals and we came up with a sign of when she needed to stop to let me adjust and pretty much when to stop altogether and get out of me! Remember it’s your body, your baby, they are there to help and guide you. If your uncomfortable or worried just mention it to them. During my labour I had 3 different midwives, and with each one I spoke my concerns and we did the same system. Anyway to the breaking of the waters.

So they broke..which by the way didn’t hurt at all, and I was given an hour to see if contractions started, if they didn’t I would be put on the hormone drip. Well it didn’t take long.  By having my waters broke I went from 2 to 3 cm dilated. So I was on the right track. Then came the contractions. Now these weren’t a gentle increase. I went straight into 2 minute apart contractions lasting a minute long. The midwife stood there mouth open seeing me contract like hour passed and my contractions showed no sign of stopping. I was contraction a minute apart for a minute and they were getting intense. Bring in the gas and air. Which by the way is great. It makes you giggle and helps with the pain. Also you sounds like Darth Vadar, an impression I did constantly why giggling through contractions!  But you do kind of loose it a little. I lost all track of time, had no problem running to the toilet (which wasn’t in my room) with my butt hanging out in my gown. That gave the decorator a bit of a shock who was painting the hall way. Apparently at one point I thought I was in Canada, and trying to sprint in-between contractions to leave my glorious gas and air to go pee..well was a challenge. I did this about 10 times until I realised there was gas and air in the bathroom..typical! Now I had the privilege of having morning sickness all through pregnancy, and it didn’t disappoint as I threw up a lot during labour..and I mean a point Richard went into the supply cupboard to grab me one of those cardboard dishes to catch my vomit..the next time he wasn’t quick enough as I threw up all over myself…it was so romantic…


Me struggling through contractions, while holding tightly onto the gas and air as if it was encrusted with gold..which believe at that point it kind of was to me.

Bring on a couple of hours of me trying to breathe through my ever increasing contractions. I mean come on where were my five minutes of peace between contractions that only lasted 30 seconds..Anyway they were getting pretty intense and I was feeling some right urges to push…but after being checked and only being 5cm dilated…there was no way I was ready.

It was heartbreaking as the gas and air was starting to not cut it through my now minute and half long contractions which were coming every minute..Now everyone wants that natural birth, but all I can say is go in with an open mind because until you feel that intense pain, and your energy levels start to dwindle, you can’t decided how your going to handle your labour. My next pain relief option was pethidine. To be honest by this point I don’t even remember it going in or doing anything, I was literally trying to jump out of my own skin..the pain was intense. I had been in active labour for nearly 6 hours..and my contractions were coming every 30 seconds…and I was only 6 cm was time for the big E.

Ok so my biggest fear about having the epidural were the risks of having the epidural, and the idea of having a needle in my spine. Me and Richard had come up with a code. I had the chance to ask 3 times for the Big E. On the 3rd time I was serious, and he was to tell the midwife this. What I didn’t realise was that it can take up to 40 mins to get the epidural in motion, then 20 minutes once administered for it to take full effect. I was on the edge of passing out, but before I knew it (you loose time like I said earlier) a lovely anesthetist was putting a drip into my hand, stroking my back to calmly talk to me about the risk, how it works and that I would have to sit deadly contractions were 30 seconds apart, I told him when I was having one and as soon as it finished I stayed still like a rock.( apparently I mean I was  pretty high at this point) and he had done it in 30 seconds. Amazing. and I didn’t feel the needle or anything.  It was a god job I went for the epidural as Archie didn’t make an appearance for another 7 hours..there’s no way I would have been able to cope..

I should note that just before my epidural, I peed all over Richards feet. What can I say contractions are intense especially when your standing up..


Me after my epidural asleep…Richard decided to become a documentary photographer during my labour..don’t I look great…One disadvantage to epidurals is having all the tubes attached to you, and not being able to move about. I was lucky as I didn’t have a permanent catheter put it..I just had an in out one..every coupe of hours or so to just empty my bladder. Labour is so attractive isn’t it.

But that was it. Epidurals are pretty amazing. Although I got a bit clicky happy as every 25 minutes you could up the dose a for the next 7 hours I actually managed to sleep a little…and feel little or no pain (sometimes) what so ever. Although when it came to the pushing part I wish I hadn’t been so clicky happy…as it’s hard to push when you have no idea when your having contractions. When I finally hit 10cm..and was told its time to start pushing I went into full panic mode. I had no idea if It was going to hurt, and the fact I was about to meet my baby…well I start uncontrollably shaking.. It didn’t help that the monitors wouldn’t pick up my contractions so I was guessing when to push. But it didn’t hurt..I felt pressure plus the need to go to the loo (which I didn’t…yay) but I didn’t feel any pain, the pushing was hard though…I had midwives holding my legs, while a doctor took over and was pretty much screaming at me to push and hold my breath…which believe me is hard to do when you have been in active labour  for 14 hours..everything got a bit intense…alarms were going off which I now know was little Archers heart rate dropping..and the doctor was getting more and more concerned. So with a little snip I had a small episiotomy, and he came..he also caused me a small tear, which the doctor assured me was the smallest one she had ever seen..still a 2nd degree one though.

Then he came out, which is the weirdest sensation ever..but he came out blue, Richard got told to pull the emergency cord and about 8 people rushed in..after he was checked though, thankfully everything was fine and he was given to Richard but by god didn’t it scare me to death.


This is Archer a few minutes old. Not the best picture as I was being sewn up at the time…but still one of my favourite pictures ever.

I wasn’t allowed to hold him while I was being sewn up. (I’m not sure why as I have been told by other midwives there’s no reason why I wouldn’t have been able to hold him) but after an hour I finally got my baby. I made the midwives giggle as I said be honest ladies is my vagina fu**ed…I was still slightly high at this point. But Archie was out safely and came to us at 1:43 am. Weighing 8 lb 1 oz and was 50cm long. All family was awake as Richard had done a running commentary the last 14 hours to keep himself occupied. Including lovely pictures of me on the toilet and high on gas. But it was lovely to know everyone was awake waiting for the news of this delivery.

This is me finally holding my baby, and it’s crazy how cute he is. I was expecting a mini E.T. but he looked just perfect, and he still is.





This is me looking rather exhausted..but totally worth it. The next 48 hours were really tough, and I’ll leave that for another post. But now as I sit and write this Arch is asleep in his bouncer, and it’s my first official day looking after him on my own. 3 weeks and 4 days old. Where is the time going. I can’t believe he will be 1 month old on Friday. I’ll have to do a photo and compare him to his first day..he was so tiny!


But that was my labour and to be honest the labour part wouldn’t put me off having another baby. Even the pregnancy I think I could possibly do it again..possibly. It was sadly the hospital stay after. It was a shame really as we had such good care up until he was born. Then a lack of communication ruined it. But that’s another post. Hope you all had a lovely weekend. I’m off to know sleep when the baby sleeps and all!


Bright Colour and Pattern wants from Etsy.

I have always loved colour and pattern, so there’s no surprise that when I do my Etsy wish lists they feature heavily in it. But I have looked at more decor and house items today as I am an on a constant mission to make my little rented house a home. At the minute it looks  a little like Toys R Us has exploded all over, but hey my little man is just over 2 weeks old, and I’m enjoying  the mess that surrounds me. He’s totally worth it. But to my gorgeous Etsy finds.




This is so super cool..I just think it would be such a cool thing to hang in your home, plus an excellent conversation piece..I mean come on…it’s a fish! This is from Don Fisher Shop and costs £18.99. Find it here.


How super cute is this? Note I need this for my desk. This is from Panselinos and it costs £62.40. Find it here.


I am loving the candy pink right now, and I love this ring. This is from Quiet Clementine and costs £10.53. Find it here.


This wall hanging..just to die for no?, and I have been looking for one for a while…this could be it..though deep down I think I want a giant one for my living room, and a smaller one like this for my bedroom. This is from  Pink Wild Mallow and costs £38. Find it here.


I never did manage to get my massive nesting list before little man came, including putting my gallery wall up. But don’t fret as it just means I have more time to buy more art to make my future gallery wall bigger and I am in love with this piece. I just love how fun it is. This is from Elizabeth Pawle and costs £60. Find it here.


So yes this isn’t bursting with colour, but put a flowering plant in it..and yeah you see where I am coming from. But this is awesome and it’s such a fun way to hang your plants no? This is from We are MFEO and costs £49.26 and you can find it here. 


I actually brought some of this a while ago and made journals with it as it is double sided. But if you want to freshen up some books, or simply wrap a gift with style then this wrapping paper is for you! Plus they have lots of different options to chose from. This is from Eve en Anne and costs £5.81. You can find it here.


Another possible artwork for my wall…I think art is such a great way to add colour and texture to your home, especially great for those like us who rent. It can add colour and mask ugly wallpaper and paint choices that you can’t control! This is from VictoriAtelier and costs £62.40. Find it here.



Not really for the home but everyone needs a bag, I mean you can hang it up and it can be a is a form of expression. Wearable art you know..This is from Tovi Corrie and cost £154.53. Find it here.


Hope you all had a lovely weekend. Here’s to the week ahead!

Steak and Beetroot Sandwich


Ok so we all know I missed my rare steak when pregnant, so I have not wasted any time in being able to enjoy my red meat not welldone! While Richard has been on paternity leave and we have found ourselves getting into a good routine, I’ve managed to take some time and cook us a few meals which don’t consist of pasta or frozen pizza. I was pretty impressed with my latest creation and thought I’d share it with you.


What you need: (makes two sandwiches)

Steak: We used ribeye about 12oz See how we cook our steaks here.


Beetroot Salad

Smoked cheese


Mustard Mayo Sauce:

1 tbsp mayonaise

1 tbsp mustard (we used german deli)

salt and pepper for seasoning

Large pinch of garlic powder

Large pinch of Cayenne pepper.


What you do:

Ok so cook your steak to how you want and remember to season it first! A quick tip though, don’t do your steak overly rare, as steak in a sandwich goes better a little more medium rather then blue..

While your steak is cooking toast your bread and then start assembling your sandwich. I do bread, lettuce, beetroot salad, steak, cheese, mustard mayo,bread. But hey go crazy!

The one steak is enough for 2 sandwiches, just cut it into strips and lay it across the beetroot nicely. The mustard mayo is super simple, just mix the ingredients together and adjust to taste preference. Whack in some chips or have on its own and  there you have it. A manly steak sandwich with a beetroot twist. The beetroot goes so well with the mustard mayo sauce and the steak juices, its just a great filling lunch!

Regarding the beetroot salad, we brought a ready made box which came with beetroot cubes and grated beetroot, but using fresh slices would work well too!



It doesn’t take very long at all, and it’s super filling!

Enjoy and have a good weekend all!!


The Groundworks coffee shop, baby Archer’s first trip out

Ok so we ventured out of our little town for the first time yesterday, it’s funny how much stuff one little person checklist before going out is huge. Anyway we decided we wanted to go for a lunch, but wanted somewhere with good food, a good atmosphere and baby friendly. After a bit of googling Richard came across this place called the Groundworks which is in Hitchin. So we packed our car with all the baby essentials and made our way to Hitchin.

The decor is the first thing I noticed, its so fresh with wood and white interiors, and hair pin legs tables….so awesome. Did I also mention there were industrial bulbs everywhere..gah..dream decor or what!



I am just in love with this decor..but to the place itself. Firstly staff were lovely and had no problem with us bringing the pram in, they even cooed a bit over Archie, but what can I say, he is pretty cute!



The chairs are stupidly comfortable, they don’t look it, but believe me they are, and this is coming from someone who had a baby 12 days ago. So to the food and drink. I had an ice tea which was so fresh and floral I could have drunk a gallon. The Groundworks is pretty well known for their coffee, and I can see why. The coffee was smooth and full of flavour, and the milk comes in a cute little bottle. What can I say I’m a sucker for presentation.

So to the food. I went for their NY deli bagel, which was just mouthwateringly good. I have missed not being able to eat italian deli meats, so this was a much needed treat! The salad it came with was super fresh with a really zingy dressing which sort of tasted like was super good!


Richard went for the grilled cheese with came with a chilli jam. I tried some of this and its crazy how good it taste! Sucha simple thing but it’s the best grilled cheese I have ever tasted.  Overall we couldn’t fault the food, and for less £20, the lunch date didn’t break the bank either!


Archie obviously was enthralled by it all…as he slept beautifully the whole time, with Jeff the giraffe by his side!


So if you find yourself in Hitchin in Bedford, I would totally recommend this place for a bite to eat or a really good coffee! So do check it out here!

Our last couple of weeks in pictures

So I know I have been MIA, due to have the cuteness that is Mr Archer Sanders. But I thought I’d share with you some pictures from the last couple of weeks, warning there are a few baby ones..just a few..ok so it may be entirely pregnancy and baby related..but lets be honest the last month has been very baby related.

It’s kind of crazy not being pregnant, though I am not missing throwing up every day. Although my belly now feels and looks like a deflated balloon, but hey, I have a bundle of cuteness to show for it. Archer is 11 days old, and I have no idea where the time has gone…but me and Richard find ourselves slowly getting into a routine, as I sit writing this Archie is fast asleep on his daddy. Perfectly peaceful.

So to some pictures!


Date night, this was our last proper date night, we went for a know to try and kickstart my labour…it didn’t work…nothing really ended up working…Archie had to be evicted..



My full term bump…my midwife was convinced I was having a big 9 lb baby..thankfully Archie was only 8 lb 1.  it’s weird not having my bump anymore, but I enjoy having the ability to get out of bed nice and easily.



Our scrummy little man. My first picture of him. Perfection. Here he is an hour old..1 hour…crazy they let you hold and keep and baby that tiny.



I will do a post on my labour and on our first few days with Archie as they weren’t the easiest. He was a little poorly and this picture was taken when we finally made it home. It’s quite possibly one of my most favourite pictures ever..My little family.


It could be the lack of sleep, but me and Richard are enjoying the funny positions and faces our little man seems to come up with. I honestly think I’ll end up doing a little gallery wall project of the many faces of Archie. I call this one…You talking to me?


Getting ready for bedtime..sorry this is probably a massive overload of baby pictures..but I did warn you…


So I did a first aid course on Saturday…it honestly terrified me, I don’t think I even remember exactly what I am meant to do in a mergence. Luckily it came with a poster that I will be putting up in the nursery. But it’s always good to be prepared.



Joint nap time. Baby Archie on mummy, with daddy on the floor. I think this picture sums up parenthood quite well…but he’s totally worth it.


Sorry for my absence…but we have some news..

So yes I know I have been away for far too long…I can only apologise, the couple of weeks leading up to my due date and induction date were manic, and I needed some rest..pregnancy really takes it out of you! But hopefully I will be back blogging frequently again soon.But to the news!

On July 31st at 1:43 am our little guy was born..a slightly manic labour which I will leave for another day, but here is Archer Charlie Sanders. I call him Archie..which yes I know technically isn’t a nickname because it isn’t shorter..but either way, me and Richard are in love.



My beautiful boys….we are both uber tired..but it’s worth every minute.



I have some super cute outfits, I’ll probably end up doing a while look book just for Archie. Now as I have said, this blog won’t be baby over kill..but he’s a massive part of my life and I hope you enjoy the updates of our little family. But the blog should be back to running smoothly in a couple of weeks, with all our DIY, recipes,ramblings and lifestyle craziness.

Love to you all.